Positive anything is better than negative nothing. – Elbert Hubbard
– Elbert Hubbard
Have you ever noticed that time tend to fly by really quickly when we’re happy and a minute feels like a year when we’re not?
It’s actually a natural bias for us human beings to seek out negative events and circumstances and hold on to it for fast recall. While happy memories we usually have to consciously recall. Strange, isn’t it?
Not that it’s a bad thing.
It’s a part of self-preservation mechanism that let us acknowledge the problems and solutions. However, we usually focus too vividly on the negative that we set ourselves up for failure instead of success.
So if we can will ourselves to focus on the positive instead of the negative, we can definitely even out the odds.
If we can find a happy medium where we can acknowledge and address problems or failures or challenges without letting the circumstances pull us into a downward spiral. If we can find that middle ground where we can think with a clear head and stay positive then it’s most likely that we’ll be able to stay productive and motivated to reach our goals.
8 Ways to train your brain to stay positive
1. Attitude of gratitude
When face with a challenge, first take stock of what is good in your life. This will help balance the negative bias and give your brain what it needs to get that boost to tackle the challenge the right way.
2. Challenge the negative
When a negative thought pops into your mind, challenge it. Imagine you are an outsider looking in on that negative thought. (Think of it as an Obscura that has been extracted from the host … you’ll know what I mean if you’ve seen The Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them.) Deconstruct it. Where it came from, why it exists, is it true and if it’s a reminder of old mistakes, then remind yourself that you learned from it and you’ll be able to deal with it better this time.
3. Think happy thoughts
Remind yourself of the things that make you happy. Pick 2-3 things that you know will make you smile. The happy thoughts will definitely help chase away the negativity and give you a clearer vision and a clearer head to tackle any challenges coming your way.
4. Affirm positivity
To take No. 3 a step further, create an affirmation to be used when face with negative situations. Repeating these positive affirmations with honest conviction to yourself time and time again every morning as a way to train your brain to believe in them. Stay realistic and logical. Pick a couple of affirmations that you want to use to represent your goals and values. I’m strong and resilient. I can handle everything that comes my way. Mistakes are to learn from. These affirmations will help influence how you interpret negative events in the future.
5. Stay in the now
Stay present during the day and make a conscious effort to be in the now. Don’t worry about the future or dwell in the past. If you catch yourself daydreaming or thinking of past mistakes, bring yourself back to now. Now is where your power lies. You can’t do anything to change the past or the future. Now is the only time you can do something with.
Meditation is a great way to clear your mind and remind yourself to stay in the present. If you can take 5-10 minutes to meditate either after you wake up or just before you go to bed, that would be perfect. Repeat your affirmations and remind yourself to stay in the now. Remind yourself how strong you really are and that you can handle everything that comes your way calmly and positively.
7. Hang out with happy people
It helps to perk up your emotions when you are around happy people. When you are around happy people, you feel happy and joyful as well. Don’t waste time with people, places and things that will drain your energy.
8. Find positive pursuits
What do you like to do? What are the things or activities that you do that makes you happy? Schedule time for these activities. Do more of it and the positive energy will come looking for you.
Some of these steps might take a bit of time to get used to. Creating a new habit takes time and a little bit of effort and consistency. But the end results would be worth the energy.
So have you think positive thought today?