“It makes a big difference in your life when you stay positive.” ― Ellen DeGeneres, Seriously… I’m Kidding
I’m sure we’ve all gone through tough times in life. I’m also sure we’ve heard the suggestions to stay positive because everything is going to be ok or the cliche, ‘The rainbow after the storm.’ I’m sure when we were stuck in the rut, we could just irk hearing any more of those encouraging cliches.
I understand. It’s hard to be positive and stay positive when you’re going through hard times. Well, I have 11 ways to stay positive even when tough times happen.
These are things that I’ve hold dear to my heart. I consistently exercise my positivity because negative thoughts just don’t help. That’s it and that’s all. So I hope that these few things could help more or less.
11 ways to stay positive even when you’re going through hard times
1. Count your blessings and refocus. The easiest way to refocus and take your mind away from the negative is to count your blessings, be grateful for the things you have. Write them down if you need to.
2. Slow down. Rushing through things, even if the daily routines, will increase the level of stress and frustration. Walk slower, talk slower, eat slower and a sense of calm will wash over which will let you relax and helps you to think clearer.
3. Find a positive aspect in the negative situation. Bad decision on apartment rental? Realizing you will be stuck for a year due to the contract? Of course I was so angry with myself. I thought I was thorough enough when I was inquiring the details. I guess I wansn’t thorough enough. But at least, the place is 5 minutes walk from the train station and there are plenty of food stalls out front so I’ll never go hungry. The room’s layout is nice and spacious, easy to keep clean and a great view from the balcony.
4. Be realistic, don’t minimize the problems but also don’t exaggerate them. Look for the solutions as you go.
5. Take care of yourself first. Physical and mental strength is vital to optimism. Eat right and make sure you get daily exercise. Accumulated stress is a killer in all situations.
6. Shift your focus. Instead of mulling over the problems that cannot be solved at the moment, go out and do good things for other people and don’t worry about getting anything in return. Just go out and do good for the sake of doing it. What goes around comes around.
7. Watch your mind and your mouth. Watch what you are internally saying to yourself and what you say to others around you. Harsh words will send out negativity to those around you. It will tear you up on the inside which will not help you in any way shape or form.
8. Stop the blame game. Don’t blame others for the plight you found yourself in and don’t beat yourself up over it. Berating yourself will only hurt and adds to the frustration. (Like my bad choice of apartment for example. Hating where I live won’t help me accomplish anything but make me miserable. So I choose not to.)
9. Be present. Dwelling on what you could have done in the past will only affect you negatively. Stay in the now, stay positive and think of what you can do now to make this eventually better.
10. Find alone time to be with yourself. Use this time to unplug and meditate even if it’s just 5-10 minutes every day. Be in the moment to recharge yourself.
11. Give yourself a new direction and make a daily to-do list for both short and long-term goals and check them off your list as you go. This will offer a greater sense of direction while being able to tackle one problem at a time.