If failures are great teachers then why do we keep on failing? Why is it that we never seem to learn from the teachers?
When thinking about failures, we tend to see it in a negative light. And it could be. It’s painful and upsetting, it hurts and confuses us, it makes us doubt a lot of things about ourselves and what we can really accomplish.
But for the ones who have failed and managed to bounced back from it, I’m sure you understand that it is necessary to fail in order to succeed.
The most successful people have failed. Steve Jobs was kicked out of his own company. Jim Carey was booed off stage before he finally succeed in his career. Oprah Winfrey was told she was ‘unfit for television’ before landing a show host role that brought her so much success.
Taking risks and failing is just a part of living. As much as it hurts, it teaches. It teaches us what doesn’t work. It teaches us about who our real friends are. It teaches us to be strong and resilient. It makes us who we are. It makes us better than we were.
In order to learn from our painful failures, we need to find a way to understand it. A way to grasp the lessons the experience is trying to offer. And learn ways to not feel like a total loser that you will never ever accomplish anything in life and just give it all up instead of getting back up and have at it again.
We need to learn to recover from the emotional pain failure causes.
1. Forgive yourself. It happens. Just know that no one is immune to it. Let yourself sulk for a day then get on with life. Chalk it off as an experience. Know that it happens to the best of us.
2. Ignore the people who put you down. Just ignore them. Forget about them. Unless they have some useful information you can learn from, don’t waste your time and energy to let these people put you down. When we failed, we do enough of that by ourselves already.
3. Evaluate the situation. What happened? Why didn’t it work out? What would you change? How could you prevent it from happening again?
4. Plan your next move. If it’s a business venture, it’s time to re-evaluate the plan. Back to the drawing board and factor in this failure and contingency plans.
5. Do your homework. Research, research, research. Read case studies, study what others have done including their failures and success.
6. Make a list of all the things you will need to learn or have to succeed in your endeavors and I’m not talking about physical things. I’m talking about determination, consistency, motivation, or the correct mindset.
7. Write down your ultimate goal for the business or the project with the timeline you have in mind then break it down into monthly, weekly and daily to-do list. This way, it won’t feel so overwhelming. Work backwards from your goal down to the little things you need to do on a daily basis. Life will be much simpler that way.
It’s only natural that we fail sometimes in life and that’s ok. The most important thing we can do is to forgive ourselves, allow ourselves to fail sometimes, learn from it when that happens and move on to the next thing and use the failure as a springboard to launch from.