“I say looking on the bright side of life never killed anybody.”
― Jenny Han, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
What will you get from taking responsibility?
Here’s how you can stay positive all day long without looking like a crazy person.
When you run into something you don’t like or aren’t happy with, count one to ten, take a minute, take a deep breath. Remind yourself that you will not focus on the negativity. You will acknowledge it and see what you have to work with. But you will focus on the positive. Stay calm and think clearly about how you’d like to respond.
I know it’s not always easy to do but it can be practised and it can be learned.
2. Learn from it
When something bad or negative happen to you. Look at it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Again, don’t focus on the negative side of the situation, think about what you can learn from it and how you can do better so it won’t happen again. Take note of the circumstances that make you react negatively to and learn from it. You can identify the triggers that caused your emotional reactions so you can be aware of it in the future. Train yourself so that you can control the situation and your emotion instead of letting the situation control your reactions.
3. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes
We all make mistakes. We are only humans after all. It happens and that’s ok. What you need to do though is to step up to it and admit that you’ve made a mistake. Admit it. See it for what it was, don’t rationalise it or try to excuse it away. Learn from it and that will help make it less likely to happen again in the future.
4. Stay positive
Don’t let other people’s actions and words affect your point of view. It’s important to stay positive whether it is about you, about the situation or about another person. Don’t jump to the conclusions by listening to others. Draw your own conclusions. When things get tough, be proactive when you deal with it. Think ahead and try to have a contingency plan, even just a tentative one in place for the ‘just in case’ situations.
5. Add extra dose of positivity
Always be positive about things but not to the point where it’s dreamy. Keep your feet on the ground. Emphasise the positive attitude with your actions and your words. Get rid of all the negative thoughts that come from the negative situation because nothing good will ever come from it. Give yourself affirmations that you know to be true about yourself. Stay positive whenever you can always.
Life will constantly test you with negative people and negative situations but all you have to do is to work at it and practice focusing on your positive attitude so that instead of wasting your valuable energy and time on things that are beyond your control which cause you to react negatively.
Keeping a positive attitude is hard. It takes conscious effort but it’s something you can work on. Once you learn to control your emotional reactions to bad or negative situations, your life will just be that much sweeter. And you’ll be able to change any negative situations into a more positive one and retain the control needed to deal with anything that gets thrown your way.
So, have you choose to be positive today?