This post wasn’t easy for me to write. It hits a few personal notes but I’d like to share this with you anyway.
I’ve been writing a lot in the past few years. It comes with the territory actually. I started working as a content writer then was promoted to a content manager for online financial products/services companies. That was 4 going on 5 years before a big change happened. I thought this would be a great time to settle into this role as my long-term career path and I was on my way to try to learn as much as I can to be able to do my job better.
Well, I was wrong.
If failures are great teachers then why do we keep on failing? Why is it that we never seem to learn from the teachers?
When thinking about failures, we tend to see it in a negative light. And it could be. It’s painful and upsetting, it hurts and confuses us, it makes us doubt a lot of things about ourselves and what we can really accomplish.
I’m sure we all have ideals and goals we’d like to live up to and reach.
Most of us know just what we need in life that will make us happy and fulfilled. But somehow, we just can’t seem to reach the goals we aimed for. Why is that?
Consistency takes time and patience wear down too quickly.
Being consistent to create profound change is not easy. Like going to the gym. We tell ourselves, ‘Today is the day.’ And then it turned into,’Tomorrow will be ok too.’ Then,’I’ll start on Monday.’ Before you know it, a month had passed and a resolution stayed a resolution.
Positive anything is better than negative nothing. – Elbert Hubbard
– Elbert Hubbard
Have you ever noticed that time tend to fly by really quickly when we’re happy and a minute feels like a year when we’re not?
It’s actually a natural bias for us human beings to seek out negative events and circumstances and hold on to it for fast recall. While happy memories we usually have to consciously recall. Strange, isn’t it?
Not that it’s a bad thing.
“I say looking on the bright side of life never killed anybody.”
― Jenny Han, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before
What will you get from taking responsibility?
Here’s how you can stay positive all day long without looking like a crazy person.
When you run into something you don’t like or aren’t happy with, count one to ten, take a minute, take a deep breath. Remind yourself that you will not focus on the negativity. You will acknowledge it and see what you have to work with. But you will focus on the positive. Stay calm and think clearly about how you’d like to respond.
I know it’s not always easy to do but it can be practised and it can be learned.
2. Learn from it
When something bad or negative happen to you. Look at it as an opportunity to learn and grow. Again, don’t focus on the negative side of the situation, think about what you can learn from it and how you can do better so it won’t happen again. Take note of the circumstances that make you react negatively to and learn from it. You can identify the triggers that caused your emotional reactions so you can be aware of it in the future. Train yourself so that you can control the situation and your emotion instead of letting the situation control your reactions.
3. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes
We all make mistakes. We are only humans after all. It happens and that’s ok. What you need to do though is to step up to it and admit that you’ve made a mistake. Admit it. See it for what it was, don’t rationalise it or try to excuse it away. Learn from it and that will help make it less likely to happen again in the future.
4. Stay positive
Don’t let other people’s actions and words affect your point of view. It’s important to stay positive whether it is about you, about the situation or about another person. Don’t jump to the conclusions by listening to others. Draw your own conclusions. When things get tough, be proactive when you deal with it. Think ahead and try to have a contingency plan, even just a tentative one in place for the ‘just in case’ situations.
5. Add extra dose of positivity
Always be positive about things but not to the point where it’s dreamy. Keep your feet on the ground. Emphasise the positive attitude with your actions and your words. Get rid of all the negative thoughts that come from the negative situation because nothing good will ever come from it. Give yourself affirmations that you know to be true about yourself. Stay positive whenever you can always.
Life will constantly test you with negative people and negative situations but all you have to do is to work at it and practice focusing on your positive attitude so that instead of wasting your valuable energy and time on things that are beyond your control which cause you to react negatively.
Keeping a positive attitude is hard. It takes conscious effort but it’s something you can work on. Once you learn to control your emotional reactions to bad or negative situations, your life will just be that much sweeter. And you’ll be able to change any negative situations into a more positive one and retain the control needed to deal with anything that gets thrown your way.
So, have you choose to be positive today?